“Self Care”

23 01, 2019

Gently “Tidying Up” After a Death: Using the KonMari Method

By | 2019-01-24T09:31:29-08:00 January 23rd, 2019|Grief & Healing, Inspiration, Self-Help|0 Comments

Perhaps you've seen the new show on Netflix, Tidying Up or you've heard of Marie Kondo and her philosophy of how to go through your home deciding what to keep and what to let go. In her "KonMari Method" she speaks about honing our sense of what brings us joy. So the idea is we hold an item in our hands and if it brings joy, keep it. If it doesn't, we thank it for what it gave to us, and we let it go. This isn't an easy task to take on. Perhaps some areas of your home or life [...]

7 01, 2014

3 Things We Say at the Mortuary

By | 2014-01-07T23:11:07-08:00 January 7th, 2014|Self-Help|25 Comments

3 Things We Say at the Mortuary   Photo Courtesy of ©iStockphoto.com/BrianAJackson Usually when people think of the funeral profession they think about the sadness associated with our position and have trouble going (or don’t want to go) beyond that. But beyond the grief that surrounds my job, I’ve found that death brings clarity to our perspective and at O’Connor, this perspective is ingrained in how we treat each other and the families that walk through our doors. I’m just about to wrap up my first year at O'Connor and I thought I'd share with you some of [...]

17 07, 2013

“Man Up”: Re-Defining How Men Grieve

By | 2013-07-17T05:16:02-07:00 July 17th, 2013|Inspiration, Self-Help|36 Comments

“Man Up”: Re-Defining How Men Grieve   There is a scene in a movie I wish to describe. Two men are walking on a baseball diamond towards home plate on a setting sun in Iowa. One of the men bends over and gathers his gear and wishes the other good night, then starts making his way towards the outfield. When the man gets to about the pitchers mound, the other says “Dad? Can we have a catch?” to which the other responds, “I would like that.” The two start playing catch, and continue to play catch until the sun goes [...]

28 11, 2012

As You Toast To The Holiday Season, Don’t Forget To Designate A Driver

By | 2012-11-28T05:00:07-08:00 November 28th, 2012|General, Self-Help|21 Comments

As You Toast To The Holiday Season, Don't Forget To Designate A Driver Today I had to take my car to the dealer for an 80,000 mile service.  I was given a voucher for a complimentary rental car.  I gave the gentleman behind the desk my license and credit card as requested.  He offered me their "$15 Walk Away Insurance" in the event anything should happen to the vehicle while I am driving it.  I, of course, agreed right away. I walked away thinking how interesting it is that we worry more about protecting things than we do people. When [...]

13 11, 2012

“Thanks” Comes Before “Giving”

By | 2012-11-13T05:00:37-08:00 November 13th, 2012|General, Inspiration|18 Comments

I've been reflecting on the upcoming months as I begin to plan my holidays around my parents and my in-laws, pray my brother can make it to each gathering, consider menu options & ponder what gifts to give. I love buying presents for people, love surprising them with a thoughtful piece of evidence that demonstrates my love & appreciation of them. Via Rifle Paper Company Problem: Money. My husband and I have struggled to get by these first 3 years of our marriage as the economy fell apart around us and we saw our hours take cuts while [...]

9 11, 2012

Spring Forward, Fall Back: Pushing Through the Setbacks

By | 2012-11-09T05:00:33-08:00 November 9th, 2012|General, Inspiration|17 Comments

Spring Forward, Fall Back   Spring Forward…Fall Back… Here in California that is an easy way to remember which direction to set the clocks when the time changes. But for me, this phrase pertains to a lot more in my life than just time. Whether we want to lose weight, build muscles, learn a musical instrument, take art lessons, start writing a blog, or begin a new business venture, we find that we will “Spring Forward” enthusiastically for a time, only to see ourselves “Fall Back” with some failure or hardship. Why do we do this?  And how can we [...]

22 10, 2012

When the Holidays Mean Pain: Grieving During the Holiday Season

By | 2012-10-22T05:00:19-07:00 October 22nd, 2012|Self-Help|19 Comments

When the Holidays Mean Pain: Grieving During the Holiday Season The holidays are right around the corner. How could we miss the reminders? Inserts of coupons for Halloween candy filling the Sunday newspaper. Noticeably increasing numbers of television commercials showing families gathered around tables laden with roasted turkeys, yams and cranberries. Christmas jingles piped over the sound system at the supermarket (in October). For some people, this time of year brings a sense of lovely anticipation: of gifts and togetherness, delicious feasts and cheer.  But what about those of us who have lost a loved one?  How do we get [...]

12 10, 2012

Tanya Brown: My Story

By | 2012-10-12T05:00:22-07:00 October 12th, 2012|Inspiration|34 Comments

My story begins in the summer of 1994. On the night of June 12th, my sister, Nicole Brown Simpson, was murdered. My pain was indescribable and insurmountable. Because of the notoriety, it became difficult for me to go through the normal grieving process. I stuffed my emotions and remained quiet. I became a master at concealing my feelings. My life took a detour and was not working out the way I wanted it to. I wanted to go out and speak on Domestic Violence and inspire souls, but I guess God wanted me to heal myself first. I had not [...]

27 08, 2012

Journaling: The 5 Year Plan

By | 2012-08-27T05:00:27-07:00 August 27th, 2012|General|21 Comments

I began journaling when I was 5. I have loved writing and recording the memories of my day for a long time. Writing down the day's events was a delight to me every night. Between the ages of 5 and 13 I filled over 15 journals with entries, taping tickets to a movie into the page or a letter from a pen pal; I even illustrated some days - they were THAT good. As I got older my entries became less frequent and began to feel like a burden. I couldn't commit to all the detail I was used to [...]

19 08, 2012

“Don’t Let The Sun Go Down On Me”: 5 Things You Can Do To Bounce Back From The Blues

By | 2012-08-19T22:21:32-07:00 August 19th, 2012|General, Self-Help|26 Comments

"Don't Let The Sun Go Down On Me" 5 Things You Can Do To Bounce Back From The Blues   Something that may surprise those who interact with me on a daily basis is that I once suffered from debilitating depression. I am not announcing this for shock value or to seek sympathy.  It is a fact that I went through a period about six years ago when there were days at a time I did not even get out of bed. There were multiple factors that contributed to this dark period in my life. I do believe that I am genetically prone to bouts of [...]