“Relationships”

12 06, 2013

Remembering Atticus: A Tribute to Our Fathers (& You’re Invited!)

By | 2013-06-12T05:00:58-07:00 June 12th, 2013|General, Seasons of Life|8 Comments

  A Father's Day Tribute   When I thought about writing this blog for Father's Day, I wracked my brain to come up with that quintessential father-figure. People like Walt Disney & Abraham Lincoln came to mind, but when I remembered Atticus Finch, the humble hero of Harper Lee's novel, To Kill a Mockingbird, I knew I'd found him. Scout & Atticus Growing up I always loved the movie, To Kill a Mockingbird, because of the charming characters, the fright I felt seeing Jem up on the Radley porch, and the purity of Scout's love for adventure & [...]

13 02, 2013

Coming Soon: A Valentine’s Day . . . ALONE

By | 2013-02-13T04:00:53-08:00 February 13th, 2013|Inspiration, Self-Help|5 Comments

When Your Valentine Can’t be With You   Valentine’s Day – it seems people either love it or hate it. At least, there’s a great deal of hate for it on Facebook nowadays and of course, outcry against the extreme commercialization of relationships. But for a widowed person this sweet holiday can feel like a punch in the gut. Having a whole day dedicated to the relationship you've lost is a miserable and potentially anxiety inducing event. Maybe this is your first Valentine's Day alone or, like a dear friends of mine, your last Valentine's Day with that special someone. [...]

1 01, 2013

The Gift of Reconciliation & My Mother: Reflections & Resolutions

By | 2013-01-01T05:00:25-08:00 January 1st, 2013|General, Inspiration|27 Comments

The Gift of Reconciliation, Reunion and How It Will Shape My New Year's Resolution In October I wrote a post about the potential of losing a loved one at the holidays. Photo Credit: www.hipsterscripture.com While I am writing this, my grandmother is still with us. However, she will never be the same. She relies on round the clock care from caretakers. Her dementia has been thrown into overdrive and she does not remember what I have told her five minutes before. It is no longer me that she relies on, but her daytime caretaker for security. While she [...]

10 12, 2012

Who Will Watch the Home Place? Preserving Your Family Legacy

By | 2012-12-10T05:00:05-08:00 December 10th, 2012|Inspiration, Planning Ahead|17 Comments

About a year ago, my grandson Alex loaded a bunch of new music on the little iPod I use at the gym.  I was working away on the elliptical machine one evening and suddenly in a pretty country voice, I heard the following words: “Who will watch the home place? Who will tend my heart’s dear space? Who will come to fill my place, when I am gone from here?" { Listen to the whole song here } I was moved to tears! Totally lost it. Right there in the middle of the gym surrounded by strangers. I have been [...]

15 10, 2012

Are You Naughty or Nice? A Coworkers Perspective

By | 2012-10-15T05:00:22-07:00 October 15th, 2012|Community, General|24 Comments

Fall is a time of transition and drawing in. The holidays are around the corner and with them extra focus on family & tradition. It's a wonderful season. But do we allow it to permeate our workspace? I want to shift the focus from family to your coworkers. We spend so much time with these people, sometimes even more time than we have with our actual families & friends. Every thing in life has a cycle for change and maybe you need a refresher for your work relationships. So, how are your relationships with your coworkers? I've noticed that if [...]

10 08, 2012

Journey Mercies . . . Life’s Lessons

By | 2012-08-10T05:00:51-07:00 August 10th, 2012|General, Seasons of Life|40 Comments

Journey Mercies . . .  Life’s Lessons When do “life lessons” begin and when do they end?  From the time we are born our days are filled with rules and regulations.  Do’s and don’ts that are supposed to make our lives easier, richer, fuller, better.  Don’t touch this, don’t do that.  Don’t hit, don’t say bad words, don’t be mean to your sister, always say your prayers, wash your hands before dinner, say yes ma’am and no sir, please and thank-you.  Don’t yell, keep your room clean and don’t say “hate”.  Just writing this takes me back and makes me [...]

8 08, 2012

Peanut Butter and Jelly Make the Best Sandwiches: Some Reflections on Friendship

By | 2012-08-08T05:00:04-07:00 August 8th, 2012|Community, Inspiration|20 Comments

Peanut Butter and Jelly Together Make the Best Sandwiches. Let me begin by saying that this blog has nothing to do with a PB & J; although just reading the title is making me a bit hungry.  (Does it come with chips and a chocolate milk?)  This blog is about something more satisfying.  Something tastier.  Something nourishing.  It’s about friendship. My long-time friend Stark Howell, an acclaimed Animation Director and Storyboard Artist and I recently worked on a music video project for my songs, “Ride To Find The Cure” and “AIDS Free World,” both from my CIM Records CD, “Songs [...]

31 07, 2012

“I Just Need a Little of Your Time”: 3 Ways to Give the Gift of You

By | 2012-07-31T05:05:02-07:00 July 31st, 2012|Community, General|29 Comments

Have you ever felt so strongly that God is trying to tell you something? You know the feeling I’m talking about? I’m referring to those times when He puts it in your face until you get the recurring theme. I had just such an experience this week.  It took me three times to realize what he was saying very clearly.  As you continue reading, see if my lesson becomes clear to you. Clue #1 came when I attended a Memorial Service for the mother of a dear friend.  I enjoyed hearing stories about their frequent phone calls to each other. [...]

13 07, 2012

What Do You Do with “Different?”

By | 2012-07-13T05:00:26-07:00 July 13th, 2012|Inspiration, Self-Help|31 Comments

Sometimes when I encounter someone who is so different from my world of normal, I wonder if I am handling it appropriately.  What do you do when you run into “different’?  How open are you?  Do you ignore or dismiss those who are older, younger, poorer, less attractive, less intelligent, obese, or handicapped? Photo courtesy of ©iStockphoto.com/hidesy A Fleeting Moment … We were waiting at a light on the way to Village Church this morning.  Lutheran Church of the Cross is at that corner.  A nicely dressed and coiffed lady of about 90 was in a wheel chair. [...]

3 07, 2012

Comforting Others in Times of Grieving and Loss: The Dos and Don’ts

By | 2012-07-03T04:38:44-07:00 July 3rd, 2012|General, Seasons of Life|22 Comments

Comforting Others in Times of Grieving and Loss:  The Dos and Don’ts What’s the worst thing you can imagine someone saying to a grieving person?  Whatever you’ve just come up with in your head, I am willing to bet that it’s already been said aloud.  And, not in an attempt to be insensitive, but by someone whose intentions were likely pure! Photo courtesy of ©iStockphoto.com/curvabezier As a therapist, I speak with a lot of people about their experience with grieving and what support they’ve received to cope with the pain of their loss. I also hear a lot [...]