Journey Mercies . . . Memories of Fall

Journey Mercies . . . Memories of Fall

There’s a change coming, a really comfortable change. I love the fall and when I was a kid fall meant the start of school and seeing my friends again. Halloween was coming and so was my birthday. It meant Thanksgiving.  It meant that it was almost time for Christmas!

Now that I am older, I can reflect much more deeply about how much I love this time of year.  The days are shorter and the air is crisp. Trees that were a common green are now vibrant with color. Beneath my feet is the crackling sound of dry sycamore leaves.  Messy as they are, they always reminded me that fall was here.  There are smells in the air that weren’t there before.  Where barbequed burgers and steaks pierced the afternoon breeze, now pots of homemade Italian Wedding Soup and fresh baked Rosemary Bread waif through the house.  Can’t you just smell it?

Fall means having my family around me. I love that more than anything. And gathering at Thanksgiving is much more purposeful than ever before. I realize more and more that being truly thankful is more than saying a prayer at the feast. It’s about being thankful for each day and making the most of the time you have with those you love.  It’s about the giving and receiving of Grace.  In other words, from a sermon I heard long ago, God’s Riches At Christ’s Expense.  Grace is unmerited favor. We can be thankful for it and we can be the bearer of it.  We accept grace freely, but we also need to be more mindful of showing it too!

Fall is slower, easier. It means lots of fleece and warm scarves around my neck.  It’s hot chocolate or Pumpkin Spice Starbucks, a great movie like Little Women or Pride and Prejudice, and a big comfy blanket to curl up with. It’s watching It’s the Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown with my grandkids like I did with my own kids when they were small.  It’s helping them carve pumpkins and roast Pumpkin Seeds. 

And then there’s the best of sports! The “Boys of Summer” in the playoffs, and the World Series. College and professional football have taken over and will permeate our lives from now until the end of winter. There will be wagers made with friends, sons and dads on whose team will make it to Super Bowl. It’s already started here at work, and it’s brutal! And if you live near a high school there will be Friday Night Lights, where you’ll hear the rumble and the screams of a game well played. There’s nothing better than going to a high school football game, bundled up for fun!

Just like anytime of the year, this season brings back memories of family that I miss so much.  My dad and mom both died in the fall.  The holidays I cherished so much were not as sweet and fulfilling those years. Even though part of my life was emptied of their presence, in my heart I cherish the memories and photos that are sweet reminders of the times when we were all together.  I reminisce on both the day of their birth and the day they died.  It reminds me how important our relationships are and how we should never forget to say those heartfelt words to those we love and treasure.  Do it today – don’t wait another minute!

Fall also brings Daylight Savings Time.  This year we “fall back” on November 4th.  Who decides this kind of stuff?  Looks like this change came from the Energy Policy Act of 2005.  Pretty soon we’ll be waking up in the middle of the night and it will be 8:00 am! We also have coming up the Presidential Election.  This year it “falls” on my birthday.

Here’s some things my family loves to do:

•  It’s apple-picking time! If you’ve never been to Oak Glen Apple Orchards near Yucaipa, where you can pick your own apples, you don’t know what you’re missing. Spend a day there with your family and you’ll experience fall at it’s best!  They have a pumpkin patch, too!

•  And there’s nearby Tanaka Farms in Irvine, where you and your kids or grandkids can take a cart ride out to the vast 30-acre field where you can pick pumpkins or vegetables till your hearts content. They have a corn maze and an area where you can take your fall photos surrounded by hay bales and pumpkins. It’s open from September 28 to October 31st. The cost is very reasonable so check out their website.  Tanaka Farms Pumpkin Patch

•  Finally, when my kids were younger, our street was lined with huge sycamores, and I mean 30 feet or more.  On a blustery fall day when the wind would whip through the trees tossing dried leaves everywhere, they would run after them and try to catch them before they fell to the ground.  If you’ve never played “leaf catch”, it’s a whole lot harder than you think.  Try it!

So, fall can be many things to many people.  But mostly, fall is all about change.  It’s all about transformation and the shedding of the old to wait patiently for the absolute beauty of the new.

I’d love to hear what you like most about fall and what you like to do!

By | 2012-10-04T05:00:11-07:00 October 4th, 2012|General, Seasons of Life|57 Comments


  1. Neil O'Connor October 4, 2012 at 6:57 am - Reply

    Hi Pat –

    I love you and the amazing writer you are. Fall is a great time for change and planting new seeds of grow. As much as I love the summer time, I have started to really appreciate the fall season. I love the change in the cooler weather, especially after this nuclear summer, did we all get up and move to Florida and you forgot to tell me? My favorite sports start in the fall, football and Laker-ball! Oh yah baby let the balls fall where they must, always a great mini drama. This year’s holidays are going to be extra special with Jesse dressing up life mini Elvis and his first real christmas coming his way. I have so much to be thankful for in my life and you have been one of the best friends I could have wished for.
    Namaste Pat! XOXO

    • Patricia Kolstad October 4, 2012 at 7:45 am - Reply

      Neil . . .
      It was such a joy watching you and your son play at the O’Connor Family Picnic. And even more beautiful was experiencing your transformation into this incredible father. Change comes to all of us. We can embrace it, fight against it, or move with it. It’s always been our choice. I remember times when I railed against those changes that were happening to me many years ago. But with your help, I pushed through and came out a better person. Fall reminds us that we can always shed our former self and move toward a new and different time. Embracing change . . . difficult sometimes, but worth every moment. Thank you for your friendship, your wisdom and the way you have challenged me over the years to “change for the better”. You truly are my forever friend!

    • Wayne fortin October 10, 2012 at 5:29 am - Reply

      Hi Pat, I love this Fall posting. I was reaised in New England and as a kid leaves were something to rake. Now at least once every 2 years my wife and I leaf peep in New England. Just smelling the leaves now brings me back like nothing else to memories of childhood. Also what our trip back to New England does for us is give us a sense of history we really don’t get in Ca. Love seeing a sign as we enter a city: EST 1785.

      • Patricia Kolstad October 10, 2012 at 10:58 am - Reply

        HI Wayne:
        Thank you so much for sharing your memories of New England. My hope is that someday soon I can go there and really experience Fall. And you’re so right . . . set 1785 really makes us native Californian’s aware of what history we don’t have.

        Thank you, again


  2. Lori October 4, 2012 at 9:25 am - Reply

    I love what you have shared with us here about your holiday traditions with your family.
    First this post made me hungry! I could smell the Rosemary bread and the Pumpkin seeds! Since pumpkin spice lattes are my new obsession, I was longing for a Starbuck’s delivery.
    As I read on I grew to love you even more because I am learning more about your role as mother and grandmother. There are not enough hours in a day to share our personal stories and these posts are such a great way to learn more about one another. I could just see you wrapped in a blanket on the couch with the kids watching old movies and holiday programs.
    Your post also brought tears to my eyes as I face the very real possibility of the first Thanksgiving without my Grandma. It has been tradition for many years that I spend this holiday with her.
    It is time for me to start making some new holiday traditions that bring joy and meaning to my life…volunteering to serve meals to those less fortunate than us, time with the wonderful friends I have been blessed to have in my life, etc.
    Thank you for this beautiful post.
    Love you!

    • Patricia Kolstad October 4, 2012 at 10:14 am - Reply

      Lori – I thought of you when I wrote about my parents. I thought of you and what a special woman you are caring for your aging grandma. I thought about you and how your life will “change” when she will no longer be with you. Though Thanksgiving will never be the same without Grandma . . . you too will have wonderful memories of that day . . . funny things that happened, times when you were “over the top” grumpy because you were just too exhausted to handle it. I so understand. With change come newness of life. You are in that period of change. Embrace it – move toward it – and remember . . . you’ll always have your memories.
      I love you dearly,

  3. Anne Collins October 4, 2012 at 9:30 am - Reply

    I love fall, too. In fact, I have been thinking about what I will write about fall and it is not there yet. All the neat memories you spoke of evoked many memories and emotions in me. Thank you for sharing a absolutely beautiful piece.

    • Patricia Kolstad October 4, 2012 at 10:16 am - Reply

      Thank you. And I look forward to reading your next post as well. Fall is that time where we stop to remember and reflect. We don’t do that in summer, and I don’t think we do that in spring. The fall and winter months causes us to stop! Reminds us of the reflective stories we all have. I can’t wait to read yours!

    • Patricia Kolstad October 4, 2012 at 10:22 am - Reply

      Thank you. We all have stories to share. And as I’ve learned, we really aren’t as reflective in the spring and summer months. I think that fall and winter always reminds us of how life is a lot like seasons. We are always on a path of renewal and regrowth. Off with the old and on with the new. It just so happens that when we are older, we understand the purpose of all of that. And we are thankful for another opportunity to be all that we can be. I’m looking forward to your words of wisdom again.

  4. Kari Leslie October 4, 2012 at 10:19 am - Reply

    “Good job Momma, spoken like a true Autumn!” (I know you get that!) If not, call Kori or Kristen and they’ll explain.
    I absolutely LOVE this blog, and you better than anyone else know why. Of all your babies, I am a true Autumn, right down to the color of my hair. This is the most wonderful time of the year for me. Not only is it my favorite season, but I get to spend my first “Fall” in my new home. The decorations went up on the first week of school. Even though it was still Sahara hot outside, I was beckoning Fall to wrap me in its cool wonderful glow. I’ve broken out the tea kettle, strategically placed pumpkin & ginger candles, and replenished my Fall Magazine collection. Come on over and sit on my big comfy couch, the fireplace will be lit, my afghan’s are at the ready, and you can bet “You’ve Got Mail” or “French Kiss” is in the DVD player. You know where to find me!

    Love you!!

    • Patricia Kolstad October 4, 2012 at 10:30 am - Reply

      Daughter . . . you make my heart overflow! I’ve decided that soon I will spend a whole day with you. We’ll send the kids off with Kevin to a game or the mountains, or something, and we’ll drink tea, put on those great movies, curl up, nap if we want, and just spend time together. It’s getting to be that time, where moments like that mean everything to me. And you, my beautiful redheaded daughter, will be there to share them. I want to make great memories from now on. Capturing all that is wonderful in my family. You know all too well, how that makes me feel. You, my grandkids . . . my family. It’s all about memories!
      Thank you, and I love you “big as the world” and “big as the best”.

  5. Diane Kopylow October 4, 2012 at 1:27 pm - Reply

    Hi Pat,

    Thank you for your insight and sharing of memories of the word “Grace.” This is a word we all need to ponder more often, as it is something that flows silently through us all, with or without our awareness. However, once its presence has been acknowledged, it can be a wonderful part of the love we feel for our friends and family. Your abundance of such runneth over, dear friend. Love, Diane

    PS: Don’t forget to try the mini apple donuts at the top of Oak Glen when you’re there. To die for!

    • Patricia Kolstad October 4, 2012 at 1:53 pm - Reply

      Hello sweet friend:
      Thank you so much for your comments. I saw Grace in you from the moment we met. Your love of others and your patience and kindness was revealed to me early on. You are a dear friend – one that will last a lifetime. My hope would be that we all learned to and shared grace. As you said, it’s in us – it just needs to be tapped. You really do reap so much more than you would ever expect!
      I would love for you to write as a guest blogger, from your years as a teacher. I certainly loved your response on FB about how folks seem to lose their ability to use appropriate grammar. That was cleaver and succinct.
      I love you and miss you!

  6. Cheryl Lanterna October 4, 2012 at 2:33 pm - Reply

    Hi Pat!
    I too love the changes Fall brings. Just coming home from Connecticut and enjoying the beginning of the changes of colors, I have to say that comparing the changes to changes in life is very appropriate. We do need to embrace change and look at the joy it brings to us!!
    Would you believe I left home this morning thinking that I would make Italian Wedding Soup (of course you know that I am Italian) this weekend! How coincidental that you included this today, or maybe it is not a coincidence at all!
    Thanks for your wonderful insights and for all of continuing, wise, cherished advice!

    • Patricia Kolstad October 4, 2012 at 3:17 pm - Reply

      Hi Cheryl:
      Thank you so much for sharing on my blog. I can’t even imagine the beauty you saw while visiting your
      family on the east coast. But then, that’s where you’re from. Beauty abounds there! We have talked so much about how our lives have changed, and keep changing. How we struggle to understand those changes, and when we get right down to it. We embrace them with abandon! Happy Cooking this week-end. Of course I knew you were going to cook something Italian. And what a great cook you are!
      Love you my friend!


  7. Tom October 5, 2012 at 9:21 am - Reply

    great information

    • Patricia Kolstad October 5, 2012 at 10:19 am - Reply

      Thanks, Tom
      I’m glad you enjoyed it.

  8. Chuck Ricciardi October 5, 2012 at 10:44 am - Reply


    The familiar patterns of the seasons remind us that change is the only constant in life. Why are we so effected by the changing world of nature and mother earth? One answer in my book is because we are all connected with it, every last leaf… Thanks for sharing your heart and thoughts and I have been blessed to watch and observe the changes in you.


    • Patricia Kolstad October 5, 2012 at 10:52 am - Reply

      Hi Chuck:
      I appreciate you so much. You have always been a “leveler” for me. The connection you have with your surroundings and those you love and work with is evident in the way you look at life and change. I love when you share how important it is to be aware of change and flow with it. Life is certainly a reflection of the seasons, isn’t it!

  9. Shayna Mallik October 5, 2012 at 11:07 am - Reply

    Hi Pat,
    Wow what an amazing blog. I love the changing of the seasons especially to fall. I love the changing of the colors and especially love the weather change. I, too, love the cold cuddle up in a blanket weather. I enjoy the nights when I come home from work and can make some hot chocolate or hot tea, curl up in a blanket on the couch and put in a nice movie or sometimes grab my kindle and enjoy a good book. This fall has some new experiences for me because I am moving out of my parents house and Brad and I will be moving into our apartment. So my fall nights will get to include all the things I love as well as having the one I love by my side to enjoy it. Thank you so much for sharing your story and what fall is to you!!!!

    • Patricia Kolstad October 5, 2012 at 11:40 am - Reply

      What exciting news! New beginnings . . . and you will always remember that very special day. I’m so excited for you. Your plans for the future are about to unfold and your life’s journey will begin anew. Congratulations on this special time in your life.


  10. Kori Marie Kolstad October 5, 2012 at 12:19 pm - Reply

    Dear Mom,
    Well, as you know, I am a summer girl. But I am actually looking so forward to sweater season this year. I love everything thing that you mentioned about what the Fall season brings. I am so happy that you remembered “leaf catching”. Those are some of the funnest memories I have of growing up in our house. Football in the middle of the street on Thanksgiving. I love the colors that fall brings to the liquid ambar trees. I also love the anticipation of knowing that we as a family will be getting together to share in one holiday or another. Food, football, fun. This is what I love about the fall season. I love you Mom.
    Love, Kori

    • Patricia Kolstad October 5, 2012 at 12:35 pm - Reply

      Daughter . .
      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Football in the street . . I remember that so well. “Car!” – meant get out of the street. I can’t wait for all of us to be together. I think Kari’s will be the house for Thanksgiving from now on. She has that great little Pepper Tree Park right across the street. Fall will be sweeter now that you are home! I love you dearly,

  11. Jamie Sanderson October 5, 2012 at 4:45 pm - Reply

    Wow, I feel like part of the family! Thanks for the wonderful stories. Fall is my favorite season – to me it says ‘new beginnings.’ What good reminders to stop and enjoy the blessings around us. I may take Hailey, my own daughter to the pumpkin patch here in a couple weeks and start a new tradition!

    • Patricia Kolstad October 8, 2012 at 12:51 pm - Reply

      Hi Jamie:
      I believe that new traditions are so much fun. Tanaka Farms is a great place to let your kids
      run free and explore. Thanks so much for sharing on my blog.

  12. Carrie Bayer October 7, 2012 at 8:38 am - Reply

    Pat- You have painted an amazing picture of what fall means to you! These are lovely memories & feelings you have shared, thank you so much! Carrie

    • Patricia Kolstad October 8, 2012 at 12:53 pm - Reply

      Hi Carrie
      I do love fall . . and I know that you do as well. Can’t wait to read your Halloween blog!
      I appreciate you!


  13. Cheryl L Wieland October 8, 2012 at 3:08 pm - Reply


    You have a way with words and discribing your thoughts about fall. Today is Canadian Thanksgiving and the turkey, yes Canada has turkey too! We also have butter tarts for dessert along with pumkin pie!! yummy. The leaves have changed, the colors are vivid, it is definitely jacket weather. If we are lucky Indian Summer is still with us.–the morning frost gives way to warmer afternoons. time to rake up the leaves and cover up the bushes

    • Patricia Kolstad October 8, 2012 at 3:50 pm - Reply

      Wish I could see a Canadian Fall. My grandparents lived in Penticton British Columbia and my Dad was born in Ottawa. I always went to see my grandparents in the summer. They said Penticton was the Cherry Capitol of Canada. I believed it. They had 12 cherry trees in their back yard. I learned to spit seeds with the best of them. Thanks for sharing your thoughts about Fall, Cheryl.

  14. Jennifer Alves October 8, 2012 at 5:20 pm - Reply

    Ms. Kolstad,
    After reading your blog the tears started flowing. Memories of my own childhood were flowing through my head. This is the first fall without my dear mom. The holidays will be hard, her birthday is next month and the 1 year mark is in December. This fall will be a change for our family as we grieve her loss and learn to go through these times without her. Your blog was very well written and actually got me thinking about all the very special moments that I did have with my mom. You could not be more right about telling our loved ones how much we love them. Wishing I could tell her these things now… Love to you and your beautiful family. Love, Jennifer Tweedy

    • Patricia Kolstad October 9, 2012 at 10:36 am - Reply

      Jenny . . so great to hear from you!
      I remember the following you and your family through the last days of your precious mom’s life. I know that you miss her so much, as do your kids. Losing your mom so early in your life will mean that your memories will be even more important. Sharing with your children her love and devotion to all of you will become more joyful as the days pass. I love your positive response to sharing special words with those we love. It is so important.
      Sending you love and hugs!

  15. Meagan Thomas October 8, 2012 at 11:10 pm - Reply

    Oh what joy you have brought to my heart, and what memories. I love you so much and I am so thankful for this blog. You have brought me back to times I cherish most… My family times. Autumn was the favorite for all our family! But especially us girls. I can remember almost every single one! And leaf catching hasn’t even crossed my mind yet. Your house was always the best. And all of those Lovely movies! Oh, all the snuggling and sitting by the fire at Mom’s while we watched them all! I loved those times. I also remember so much of the delicious goodies we created! All those seeds and pies and bread… Mmmm my mouth waters! Grammy, I miss this, and you most of all. Hopefully this Autumn will be the beginning to start a whole new set of memories. I love you BIG as the WORLD!
    Love, Meagan

    • Patricia Kolstad October 9, 2012 at 10:42 am - Reply

      My sweet granddaughter . . . you are a joy and you bless my heart.
      Memories are what we build our lives on and what carries us through the years. It keeps our loved one close and brings a smile to our hearts and our faces. We can’t stop making new memories. Our Kolstad, Thomas, Leslie, Miranda, Islas, Echeverria recipes are as varied as our names. But it’s the recipe for a lifetime and I’m so grateful for each new dish we cook up! Aren’t we so very lucky. Bon Appetite for life!
      I love you “Big as the World and as our little Ella would say . . Grammy, I love you “Big as the Best!”

  16. Sharon Watkins October 9, 2012 at 8:15 am - Reply

    Having grown up in Southern California, I didn’t really understand the full beauty of the Fall season of the year until I went away to college in Utah and got to see first hand the miracle of changing seasons. I had been to Utah to visit Grandparents each year of my life up until then, but that was always in the summertime when everything pretty much looked like my home in California (except for those incredible Rocky Mountains).

    I immediately fell in love with the Fall season for all the reasons you described and more. The majestic mountains were bathed in so many beautiful colors I could hardly believe my eyes. I finally understood what “crispness in the air” truly meant. I just loved driving along the city streets or through the beautiful canyon passes and seeing the miraculous changes that occurred daily in the beauties of nature. It warmed my heart and helped me understand that even though things stay the same they can also change – just like me.

    Thank you for taking me on your “Fall Journey”. It brought back similar memories for me, but also evoked many personal and delightful ones in my own mind. Even as I write this, I can feel the wonderful Fall air coming in my window. What a welcome relief after such blisteringly hot summer days we have experienced lately. I think it will allow me to appreciate the cooler Fall air even more this year.

    Thank you for taking the time to share such wonderful, heartfelt thoughts with all of us and helping us reflect on what this colorful season means to each of us.


    • Patricia Kolstad October 9, 2012 at 10:53 am - Reply

      Sharon . .
      Your description of the mountain in Utah . . well, it makes me what to go see . . . in the Fall of course! The only place I have been where I really could enjoy the fall colors was at Convict Lake near Mammoth. I’ve gone in late October and early November when all the aspens were changing. But I can’t imagine seeing the great Rocky Mountains. Guess that’s a trip I need to plan. I think, deep in our hearts, we all love the fall. Even if you’re a summer person, our minds and bodies need the rest. At least until Christmas!
      Thank you so much for sharing . . you are a joy to be with!


  17. amy October 9, 2012 at 9:57 am - Reply

    Fall and Winter are my favorite times of year. With the changing of the trees, the weather and even people’s mood.
    I believe that this time of year makes people happy. They know that it is a time for family and friends to gather and be thankful for one another and also celebrate the birth of our Savior. I enjoy it because I am setting traditions and making memories for my daughters.

    • Patricia Kolstad October 9, 2012 at 10:57 am - Reply

      Hi Amy . . thanks so much for your comments.
      I agree wholeheartedly with you about mood changes. I know for some who are summer people, the fall isn’t as fun as being at the beach surfing. But for most, fall is the time for memory making. I know how much you enjoy being with your girls and I also know that making memories is a priority for you!

      Thank you for sharing that with me!


  18. Molly October 9, 2012 at 12:08 pm - Reply

    This blog is so dear to my heart – everything that is my favorite. You make me feel warm, relaxed, as though I’m in an arm chair by a fire with a blanket & book.
    I love your traditions & outings, I’d love to visit Apple Valley this year although I may have to content myself with photos & day dreams. I can however & shall make it a goal this fall to catch a falling leaf & participate in your game of “leaf catch”!
    Thank you for opening your heart and your home up to us in this charming post, I enjoyed every second of it.

    Love you!

    • Patricia Kolstad October 9, 2012 at 12:29 pm - Reply

      When I look at you I see Fall. You even wear scarves in the summer . . . I love that! And your Pumpkin Spice coffee. I remember the photo you posted on FB last year when you’re mom left you that pumpkin on the front porch that said . . Molly, please take me home!. You are a joy to me . . like one of my own. I am so honored to have you as my Blog Coach. You have really helped me to put to pen so many thoughts that I have had, wanted to write about but never did. I believe that this is one way to capture many of my thoughts for my kids and grandkids. My legacy living itself out on our Blog page. Thank you!!!

      Aunt Pat

  19. GREG FORSTER October 9, 2012 at 5:32 pm - Reply


    Your words and thoughts indeed bring to mind the feelings and aromas of Fall. Yes, there are many good things about Fall…
    I’m one of those “sun” guys, though, that looks to keep summer going as long as possible. Going to the pool/spa late Sunday afternoons for a brief respite is one of my simple pleasures. Fall means lamenting that I didn’t push myself to go to the beach more often, that I still have some time to enjoy the BBQ…but…then chili time is coming.
    I’m always amazed, even if the weather is still hot, that indeed, there is a different feeling in the air. Then I shift gears and look forward to hikes in the local mountains with weather that is cooler and more accommodating.
    AND…then…my “Martha Stewart” wannabee neighbor pulls out the pumpkins, pumpkin flags, pumpkin, orange and black “decor” and I am sunk. Fall is here…in ten more minutes it will be Thanksgiving.
    As a homage to the people who were kind to my kids, I still put up some Halloween decorations (but up later and down that nite earlier) and open our doors and smiles to any kid who wants to come by. I want them to feel special that nite the same way that other folks took delight in my kids. My wife gets irritated when I bend down and ask them about their costumes. But I take pleasure in letting them see my interest in them….and then I miss the times when I took my own OVERLY excited kids around the neighborhood. Being a dad doesn’t get much better than that.

    May the next 4 seasons of the year, each one, bring you something special and warm.


    • Patricia Kolstad October 10, 2012 at 7:35 am - Reply

      Even though you are not a “Fall Pumpkin Orange” person, I love the fact that you take time to indulge all the little kids that come to your door. Getting down on their level and asking questions about their costumes is the best way to make a child feel important. By default, you are showing yourself as a TRUE Autumn kind of guy. But don’t worry . . . you know that as we get older time passes extremely fast, before you know it it will be summer again and off to the beach you will go! Thanks so much for sharing you memories of Fall.


  20. Mark October 10, 2012 at 9:48 am - Reply

    Pat….Thank you for sharing your thoughts about fall….I too love this time of year….I call it “sweater weather”…..Your words caused me to stop and give thanks for all of God’s blessings in my life…thanks….Mark

    • Patricia Kolstad October 10, 2012 at 11:02 am - Reply

      I so happy that you had a moment to pause and give thanks. It’s so important for us to be grateful for all of God’s blessings and His Grace. You are a very special person, and one who will see the blessings of your faith by the patience you show. Fall gives us the opportunity to slow down and take time to pause. It’s good for our soul!

      Blessings to you!


  21. Danielle Dale October 10, 2012 at 11:26 am - Reply

    Hi Pat,

    I read your blog last night… what a lovely post! I love Autumn and I now know you do too. I felt like we could have been related with all the similarities you wrote about (blankets, sweaters, cooking, leaves, Little Women, Pride and Prejudice, etc.)

    Good writing allows the reader to really feel what the writer is saying, and be able to identify with it. It did just that for me! Thank you for a delicious read.


    P.S. My sister and I used to celebrate the Fall by bundling up and spending a whole day raking huge piles of leaves and then have “leaf pile jumping” contests 🙂

    • Patricia Kolstad October 10, 2012 at 2:54 pm - Reply

      Danielle . .
      I knew when I met you that you were special. Not only for the great work that you do, but because you were kind and open to meeting new people. You are special. It brought me joy to know that I had connected with you. And, my two smallest grandchildren are now experiencing what you have your sister did with abandon, jumping in the leaves of their large Japanese Maple. It’s so much fun to watch!
      Thank you for sharing your special fall memories. I just love hearing these stories!


  22. Marnee Reiley October 11, 2012 at 10:56 am - Reply

    Dear Pat,

    What a beautiful blog post. Just reading it, I could feel the snap of the brisk fall air, smell the cinnamon sprinkled on pumpkin cookies, and taste that piping hot cup of hot chocolate. Your descriptions are alive with detail and description and makes me happy to be a fall baby, too. There’s something about this time of year that makes me want to slow down, express gratitude, and be mindful of the beauty in small moments. Thank you for the seasonal images and for sharing some of your favorite local harvest-time outings. Wishing you a wonderful autumn.


    • Patricia Kolstad October 11, 2012 at 12:46 pm - Reply

      Hello friend:
      We made a wonderful connection yesterday – not only do we share a November birthday, but I can see us being forever friends. Autumn does cause us to pause. What a wonderful word . . pause. Just the sound of it makes you want to slow way down. Enjoy the season, Marnee, and thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.

      With Autumn Blessings!


  23. Jeff October 11, 2012 at 6:39 pm - Reply


    I like Fall, but I don’t like the fact that it drops me off in Winter. I guess I am a Spring person. I like the longer days and the promise of summer sailing. I do enjoy the change that comes with fall, the different light and the holiday season marked by the traditions we celebrate. But my heart lies with Spring and Summer. I don’t remember if it was a conversation you and I had or with someone else who said that we often prefer the season in which we were born. Probably a generalization that would not hold up but an interesting idea.

    What I loved about your blog was the linking of sights, sounds, and aromas that can open the flood gates of memory. Most of all, the window into the life, mind and heart you share about this fondness for a season. It causes me to reflect on those elements of Fall that I do enjoy. Now I can enjoy it thinking of what it means to you.

    Hugs to you,


  24. Patricia Kolstad October 12, 2012 at 7:45 am - Reply

    Jeffry . . . my dear, sweet friend

    We have visited many Falls together. Mostly in the “Spring” of our lives. Fall begins to remind me that I am traveling into that time of my life and remembering is one of the most important things I have. I remember so vividly when we were carpooling and you were building your boat. What an experience that was for me to see it begin as a shell and with your hands, watch it evolve into this amazing work of art. I was amazed at your ability to create from wood and all of that stinky stuff, a boat! You truly are a summer kind of guy. On the water is where you should be. As much as I love knowing your thoughts of summer, my heart and soul loves the warmth of a fire, a blanket, a hot cup of peppermint mocha coffee and my sweet family near by. I think people are closer in the fall and winter months. We rely on each other for warmth of touch that I don’t think happens nearly as much in summer. Just my thoughts.

    Thank you for experiencing my memories of fall. Maybe someday, you be the fall guy!



  25. Kristen October 14, 2012 at 1:37 pm - Reply

    Hi Mom,

    I love this post! I’m hoping to hit every one of your bullet points with the girls before the season’s end! Join us? I know this time of year holds some not so pleasant memories for you regarding Nana and Grandpa Gordie, but the beauty of that pain is that it reminds you (and us all!) to really savor the season wih the ones we love. I love Autumn so much (and I LOVE having a sister who is Fall’s number one fan!) and all of the warmth and closeness it brings to my life. Some of my favorite things to do as the weather cools are planting winter vegetables; soup, soup, and more soup (especially that Italian Wedding–a favorite of my little tribe!); knitting for the Holidays; making leaf angels with the girls from the fallen leaves of the backyard Japanese Maple; walks around the neighborhood all bundled up; baking copious amounts of bread! I could go on and on, Momma! Thank you for the reminder to slow the pace and relish this delicious season! Looking forward to your birthday! I love you.

    • Patricia Kolstad October 15, 2012 at 9:04 am - Reply

      Dear Daughter . .
      Some of my best memories are with you and the “little ones”. I’m so glad that we still have little ones in the family. There is nothing better than looking through the eyes of a child as they experience something for the first time! What joy!

      Yes, Yes, Yes! I will definitely join you at Tanaka farms and Oak Glen. It’s time! Fall brings out the best in folks, I think.


      • Kari Leslie October 15, 2012 at 12:48 pm - Reply

        Mom & Kris,

        Make sure that invite makes it to my part of the family tree!! I would love to go with you both and the babies to the Farm & Apple picking!! Pray pray pray for a relief to this heat!! Let’s light the fireplace and snuggle on my couch with the Nina’s!


        • Patricia Kolstad October 15, 2012 at 2:57 pm - Reply

          Kari . . . you know that you would never be excluded from our little escapades! Beside, it’s another opportunity for Madd Dawg and Frodo to have another adventure. We have the best time when we are all together.
          Making memories is what’s it’s all about!

          I love you dearly,


  26. Lórien Eck October 15, 2012 at 8:37 pm - Reply


    I truly enjoyed reading your blog… especially the fun anecdotes about your family and of course, what you all like to do.

    What I love most about fall is:
    changing of hot to warm, to cool, to cold….
    the color orange, everywhere!
    Pumpkin, everything!
    the leaves… even if it’s simply through other people’s fall foliage photos…
    the hope of what’s to come, as the seasonal change brings a feeling of transition in the air for all of creation, thus movement, growth, and shifts
    change of the closet- fabrics, textures, and layers!
    the feeling of warmth and comfort that a fire in the fireplace, a hot cup of tea, and snuggling up on the sofa with a good book or journal
    the energy in the air of gathering, pulling in, and nesting…

    What I love to do:
    long walks on the beach bundled up in scarves and down with the cold breeze on my face
    watching beautiful sunsets where the sun has moved just so…
    baking yummy cookies and treats
    traveling without the crowds of summer
    bundle up in wool, cashmere, boots, and hats…
    take the time to reflect more and take advantage of more time indoors to study, read, write, and create without “guilt” from the sun and sand!

    These are just a few of my favorite things about the Fall season….
    I am grateful for all of the beautiful sharing that I’ve read here and look forward to more!
    Much love Patricia and all!


  27. Patricia Kolstad October 17, 2012 at 5:40 pm - Reply

    You have a wonderful sense of beautiful . . touch, feel, hear, smell, see! It was delightful reading your expressions of of how fall comes alive for you. I sense that you are truly a fall person, as you describe the textures of your experiences. Thank you so much for sharing this with all of us. Certainly we are the recipients of your gifts.


  28. Mary Dedic October 23, 2012 at 4:52 pm - Reply

    Loved your fall memories, Patty O. Just returned from VA and just by looking at the trees, one can detect the season. Beauty from the trees to the air filled my senses. Of course spending time with my daughter and my beautiful grandchildren, along with my son-in-law added to my enjoyment.
    I’m not one to spend time in the kitchen, but I do love the wonderful scents that pour forth when my daughter bakes her blueberry scones and apple slices.
    Recalling childhood memories and remembering those who are no longer here always brings a smile to my face and a warm feeling in my heart.
    Thanks for sharing your beautiful thoughts, Patty.
    Mary Dedic

    • Patricia Kolstad October 31, 2012 at 9:40 pm - Reply

      Hello my dear friend . . .
      Thank you for sharing your joys of fall and being with your family. You and I are so very much alike when it comes to spending time with our kids and grandkids. They really do bring out the very best of all the seasons, don’t they. I hope someday to travel to the east coast and see what you have described. Someday . . ..
      I love you dearly, and thank you so much for posting.
      Patty O

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