“Resources & Information”

26 02, 2019

The BEST Sympathy Cards and What to Write in Them

By | 2019-02-26T22:57:43-08:00 February 26th, 2019|General, Resources & Information|1 Comment

The personal touch of a sympathy card is a warm and thoughtful way of continuing to reach out to someone you love. But so many of us are intimidated by any sort of expression of sympathy, worried we'll say the wrong thing or - a concern I've heard often - that we'll just be reminding them of their loss - AS IF they have forgotten! It's worthwhile, kind and thoughtful to reach out to people we know that are grieving. While many of us might text our sympathy these days, there is a lack of weight to the receipt of a text [...]

14 09, 2016

Say “Died”: Don’t Lie to Kids About Death

By | 2016-09-14T06:00:47-07:00 September 14th, 2016|Community, News, Resources & Information, Seasons of Life|0 Comments

    Talking to kids about grief is a classic example of ways adults over-complicate, over-think, and over-explain the ideas of death and what it's like to miss someone. Talking about death is uncomfortable for a lot of people, mostly because death is something no one wants to think about. Because we would rather avoid the topic than spend time thinking about it, our kids' understandings of death suffer. From what I have heard and even observed some funeral professionals say about death to their own children is proof that it's not easy for anyone to tell a sweet child about [...]

5 11, 2014

Why You Should Know About Hospice

By | 2014-11-05T20:30:46-08:00 November 5th, 2014|Planning Ahead, Resources & Information|12 Comments

  When hospice nurses were asked, what hospice is to them, they wrote the following: - Hospice is Being There - Hospice is Wishes Respected - Hospice is Having a choice to be home - Hospice is Telling the truth, even when it's hard - Hospice is a gift (source) Hospice. It can be a controversial word. For some, it stirs up anxiety, panic, fear, death - for others, comfort, a blessing, an answer. Many people limit hospice to being just about dying when, if you think about it, hospice really is about living the best you can with the [...]

20 08, 2014

A Book and A Hope …

By | 2014-08-20T20:00:02-07:00 August 20th, 2014|Inspiration, News, Resources & Information|31 Comments

“How do I fully live when life is full of hurt?”   Are you down today? Perhaps grief and loss have derailed you and you are finding it hard to get back to a standing position, let alone getting any forward motion. Maybe some other disappointment has temporarily sucked the air out of you and you are trying to find some way to come back. I can say with certainty “I have been there.” I am still right there some days. Having lost my soul mate and life partner 16 months ago, I still find I must make my way [...]

13 08, 2014

What to Tell Children About Funerals

By | 2014-08-13T21:37:59-07:00 August 13th, 2014|News, Resources & Information, Self-Help|42 Comments

  I was recently browsing through the new gift shop at Mission San Juan Capistrano, admiring the jewelry and slowly making my way to my favorite corner of the store; the book section on Grief. I'm always finding new and intriguing titles there and this time, I stumbled upon a series of children's books on grief that deeply impressed me. We hear the debate about children being at funerals pretty often around here and while we always encourage people to bring their children, they don't always agree with us. Well, to my surprise, in the book What Happens When Someone [...]

25 06, 2014

A Girl and Her Dog: When Pets Die

By | 2014-06-25T20:43:50-07:00 June 25th, 2014|Ceremonies, News, Resources & Information|52 Comments

She was 13 but we only had her for the last 5 years - Coco had come to my family unexpectedly. She needed a home and I felt that my parents needed a new dog. I told them she would just be there on a “trial run” but I knew better. They were instant goners and by the first night there was no “trial run”; there was just Coco. Like any dog she had quirks and a personality that spoke louder than words. She loved cheese and her favorite spot was in the front yard keeping watch with her little [...]

29 04, 2014

Life Donation – Your Questions Answered

By | 2014-04-29T20:08:18-07:00 April 29th, 2014|Inspiration, News, Planning Ahead, Resources & Information|45 Comments

  April marks Organ & Tissue Donation Awareness Month and I would venture to guess that most of us are pretty unaware of this life saving act. I'm hopeful that by the time you finish reading this, you will know more than you did before. Photo Courtesy of ©iStockphoto.com/zamanyahre Most of us know that organ donation saves lives - we hear about it in the media & some of us know someone who has benefited from this most amazing gift. But did you know that lives are saved and enhanced by TISSUE donation as well? A tissue donation [...]

4 02, 2014

What Helps When You’re on the Front Line? | A Cancer Journey

By | 2014-02-04T20:46:26-08:00 February 4th, 2014|Perspective, Resources & Information|50 Comments

  This is Part III of my story, to read Part I, or Part II, click here. { my husband Lou was diagnosed with cancer and given months to live. this is what happened to both of us as his life drew to an end. the people that touched me were angels and not many people read this part of the story. if you know someone on the front lines like i was, here's what you can do to help } Photo Courtesy of ©iStockphoto.com/ajt It was amazing to us how quickly Lou lost basic strength and the [...]

5 11, 2013

A “Fishy” Funeral

By | 2013-11-05T20:33:32-08:00 November 5th, 2013|Ceremonies, Inspiration, News, Resources & Information|42 Comments

Photo Courtesy of ©iStockphoto.com/Jasmina81   My brother died. It was about a week after we had returned home from my brother’s funeral in Michigan when my son, Sam, found his fish dead. Tears were streaking down his sweet face as he ran into our bedroom to tell me Sam Jr. was dead. After my husband and I and our older son each offered Sam our condolences, our family made the decision to have a funeral for Sam Jr. My son, with a look of determination, said “We will have the funeral tonight after dinner. I need to decide [...]

4 09, 2013

Filling the Newest Job at O’Connor: Family Care

By | 2013-09-04T05:00:30-07:00 September 4th, 2013|Inspiration, Resources & Information|45 Comments

 - A Special Journey Mercies Entry -  Being a mother of 4 and a grandmother of 9, I have come to believe that I have a pretty good handle on caring for my family.  Today my relationships with my children have become deeper and much more meaningful than they were while they were growing up. I also have the opportunity to mentor my grandchildren, and a few months ago, I moved my brother here from Oregon to manage his care. I have a lot of experience in caring : ) This year I celebrated 20 years with O’Connor and retirement [...]