“Inspiration”

23 07, 2014

Why Thinking About Death is Actually Good for You

By | 2014-07-23T23:11:57-07:00 July 23rd, 2014|Inspiration, Perspective|45 Comments

It seems that most people generally fall into one of these two categories when it comes to thinking about death; 1. Total Avoidance: Death freaks you out, you don't like how it makes you feel so you choose not to think about it (because that's going to help). Some people cope with their fear of death by dieting, working out, and worrying about their body. Others are fearful of taking risks or doing potentially dangerous things, even basic sports. People can live their lives in bubbles from a fear of dying when they are arguably, in far more danger of [...]

16 07, 2014

Meaning-Making: The 3 Acts That Give Purpose to Pain

By | 2014-07-16T22:41:45-07:00 July 16th, 2014|Community, Inspiration, Perspective|30 Comments

I recently saw an instagram post that wasn’t a weird selfie or amazing plate of food, but was in fact, something far more sad. It was a picture of a darling little red-headed boy with the hashtag #redballoonsforryan. A friend of mine had posted it with the story that Ryan had died from being hit by a car while playing at a friends’ house. Let me tell you, no matter how long you work at a mortuary and no matter how many stories you hear, you never stop feeling them – especially when there is tragedy and especially when there [...]

9 07, 2014

Grandma and “My Girl” – How A 2 Year Old Broke Through to A 100 Year Old Heart

By | 2014-07-09T15:03:26-07:00 July 9th, 2014|Inspiration, Seasons of Life|34 Comments

I started babysitting my friend’s daughter, Malia, when she was three months old. The first time was as a favor because her parents could not find a sitter for the day. The next time was just for fun since I love babies and soon I found that I loved having Malia around. We now have the tradition of spending every other Tuesday together. Five months ago I introduced her to my Grandma. I hesitated to make the introduction because in previous years my Grandma had been very jealous of my attention and was never excited to know that she would [...]

11 06, 2014

Learning from my Four Fathers

By | 2014-06-11T20:30:26-07:00 June 11th, 2014|Community, Inspiration|44 Comments

Four Fathers I get a haunting pit in my stomach now when Father’s Day approaches. Don’t get me wrong, I love the holiday, but working at a mortuary puts a twist on how you see special days like these. Every phone call has the potential to be a child/spouse letting us know that their father/husband has passed on. Or worse yet, a father is calling to inquire about how he should go about honoring his lost child. It’s a day I would rather not work but it does remind me how blessed I am to still have my dad around. [...]

6 05, 2014

Mother’s Day for the Grieving

By | 2014-05-06T22:07:17-07:00 May 6th, 2014|Inspiration, News, Perspective|42 Comments

I recently came across a friend requesting prayers for a family in her community. When asked about what happened she shared the news that the family's oldest child, a 5 year old boy, had died the day before. As I read through the shock wave of reactions and felt my own sorrow and nausea overwhelm me, and then I realized that Mother's Day was just 8 days away for this poor mother. While she has 2 other children who will wish her a "Happy Mother's Day" there will be a horrible emptiness where that other sweet little voice should be. [...]

29 04, 2014

Life Donation – Your Questions Answered

By | 2014-04-29T20:08:18-07:00 April 29th, 2014|Inspiration, News, Planning Ahead, Resources & Information|45 Comments

  April marks Organ & Tissue Donation Awareness Month and I would venture to guess that most of us are pretty unaware of this life saving act. I'm hopeful that by the time you finish reading this, you will know more than you did before. Photo Courtesy of ©iStockphoto.com/zamanyahre Most of us know that organ donation saves lives - we hear about it in the media & some of us know someone who has benefited from this most amazing gift. But did you know that lives are saved and enhanced by TISSUE donation as well? A tissue donation [...]

22 04, 2014

A Cancer Journey: Lou Goes Home

By | 2014-04-22T22:00:29-07:00 April 22nd, 2014|Inspiration, Perspective, Seasons of Life|57 Comments

This is the final installation of our Head of Accounting's story as she watched her husband's life come to an end almost a year ago today. To read all of her story, click here: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3.   Part 4: Lou Goes Home "Happy Birthday, Babe!  The day this blog posts will be your first birthday in heaven,  and my first without you.  I think I will go to Dana Point with Bella and April if she is free. Then have the family over for pizza.  You know we lost Molly the first Sunday in March, so [...]

16 04, 2014

Stubborn Love | The Power of Lyrics

By | 2014-04-16T19:57:22-07:00 April 16th, 2014|Inspiration, Perspective|52 Comments

“Its better to feel pain, than nothing at all. The opposite of love is indifference.”   It was around 10:30 on a Wednesday night, and there I was, driving out to Laguna Hills to bring someone who had passed away into our care. Only this time I was not going to be calling a stranger to let them know their loved one was in our care. I was not going to fill out any paperwork with a strange name at the heading, nor was I going to be setting up an appointment for the family to meet an Arranger. The [...]

7 04, 2014

Connection and Kindness: How We’re Different

By | 2014-04-07T13:08:22-07:00 April 7th, 2014|Inspiration, Perspective|60 Comments

We love feedback and part of my job at O'Connor is to meet with families we have recently served to collect their responses, experiences & stories of their time with us. http://www.cityofalisoviejo.com/Lisa-Blue I love asking the question, “So, why O’Connor?” Many families have had a previous experience with us and we are who they trust. Some chose us because of what  I call "The Six Degrees of O’Connor” - their kids went to school with one of the O’Connor children or grandchildren, or they know Joe & Jane O’Connor from church, their community or other organizations.  Other people [...]

25 03, 2014

The Legacy Keeper

By | 2014-03-25T22:50:11-07:00 March 25th, 2014|Ceremonies, Inspiration, News|62 Comments

The Legacy Keeper: A Celebrant's Gift to Me My brother Jim had died on February 19th just over a month ago. The Sunday after my family gathered on that warm afternoon to share all of the stories we had accumulated throughout his lifetime. We (2 of my brother's children, all 4 of mine + grandkids galore) had come to meet Keith Page, our Funeral Celebrant. I had briefly met Keith last year when he and Ty Rose, another Celebrant, came to our Mortuary to provide us with a glimpse of what a Celebrant service looks like. Little did I know [...]