“Grief and Healing”

22 02, 2017

Responding To Problems In The Support Group Setting

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by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Editor's note: The following article is excerpted from Dr. Wolfelt's book How to Start and Lead a Bereavement Support Group, available from Companion Press. Murphy's Law ensures that no bereavement support group will run smoothly 100 percent of the time. Problems will arise, typically due to one of three reasons: 1) Lack of leader preparation. "Where are we supposed to meet?" "How long was this meeting supposed to last?" "I thought you were going to bring the name tags!" If admini strative details aren't properly taken care of, group members [...]

22 02, 2017

Growing Through Grief:

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The Role Of Support Groups by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. We need not walk alone... We reach out to each other with love and understanding and with hope... We come together from all walks of life, from many different circumstances... We need not walk alone Credo, The Compassionate Friends Editor's note: The following article is excerpted from Dr. Wolfelt's book How to Start and Lead a Bereavement Support Group, available from Companion Press. There is a growing realization among those who care for the bereaved that support groups are an appropriate and effective way to [...]

22 02, 2017

Companioning vs. Treating:

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Beyond The Medical Model of Bereavement Caregiving by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Editor's note: Alan Wolfelt's keynote at the Association of Death Education and Counseling conference in Chicago aroused a great deal of interest. For those of you who did not have the opportunity to hear him speak, we are printing here the transcript of his presentation. Sam Leveson once noted that when his father came over here from the old country, he discovered three things: 1. The streets weren't paved with gold, 2. Most of the streets weren't paved, and 3. He had the [...]

22 02, 2017

The Child’s Bereavement Caregiver as Gardener:

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A Parable by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. One spring morning a gardener noticed an unfamiliar seedling poking through the ground near the rocky, untended edge of his garden. He knelt to examine its first fragile leaves. Though he had cared for many others during his long life, the gardener was unsure what this new seedling was to become. Still, it looked forlorn and in need of his encouragement, so the gardener removed the largest stones near the seedling's tender stalk and bathed it in rainwater from his worn tin watering can. In the coming days [...]

22 02, 2017

The Awesome Power of “Telling The Story”

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Why I'm Proud to be a Grief Counselor by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. As my father lay in his hospital bed recovering from cancer surgery recently, it was my privilege to honor his life story. My wonderful father recognized in his head and heart that his days on this earth were limited. Rest did not come easy, but his need to "story" did. His love of family flowed out of stories from his childhood. He told me how his mother inspired his love for baseball. He told me how his father wasn't very emotionally or [...]

22 02, 2017

Tenet 2: Companioning Principle

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Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being; it is not about thinking you are responsible for finding the way out. by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. When someone we love dies and we feel suffering, it does not mean that something is wrong. Going into the wilderness of the soul with another human being is anchored in walking with them through spiritual distress without thinking we have to have them attain "resolution" or "recovery." Being in the wilderness relates to being in a liminal space. "Limina" is the Latin [...]

22 02, 2017

Tenet 1: Companioning Principle

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Companioning is about being present to another person's pain; it is not about taking away the pain. by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Editor's note: The following article is excerpted from Dr. Wolfelt's book Companioning the Bereaved: A Soulful Guide for Caregivers, which presents a model for grief counseling based on his "companioning" principles. Companioning is not about assessing, analyzing, fixing or resolving another's grief. Instead, it is about being totally present to the mourner, even being a temporary guardian of his soul. To be bereaved literally means to be "torn apart." When someone is torn [...]

22 02, 2017

Companioning the Bereaved:

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An Introduction by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Editor's note: The following article is excerpted from Dr. Wolfelt's book Companioning the Bereaved: A Soulful Guide for Caregivers, which presents a model for grief counseling based on his "companioning" principles. Companioning is not about assessing, analyzing, fixing or resolving another's grief. Instead, it is about being totally present to the mourner, even being a temporary guardian of his soul. To order this book or for more information, visit www.centerforloss.com. At the very heart of grief lies an irreducible mystery. I have come to discover that grief is [...]

22 02, 2017

Why Is the Funeral Ritual Important?

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by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. "When words are inadequate, have a ritual." Anonymous Rituals are symbolic activities that help us, together with our families and friends, express our deepest thoughts and feelings about life's most important events. Baptism celebrates the birth of a child and that child's acceptance into the church family. Birthday parties honor the passing of another year in the life of someone we love. Weddings publicly affirm the private love shared by two people. The funeral ritual, too, is a public, traditional and symbolic means of expressing our beliefs, thoughts and feelings [...]

22 02, 2017

Ten Freedoms for Creating a Meaningful Funeral

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by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Meaningful funerals do not just happen. They are well-thought-out rituals that, at least for a day or two, demand your focus and your time. But the planning may feel less burdensome if you keep in mind that the energy you expend now to create a personalized, inclusive ceremony will help you, your family and other mourners embark on healthy, healing grief journeys. The following list is intended to empower you to create a funeral that will be meaningful to you and your family and friends. 1. You have the right [...]