“General”

13 07, 2016

Keeping the Grief Box Open

By | 2016-07-13T07:00:06+00:00 July 13th, 2016|General, News|0 Comments

|| This month's blog looks at unique and proactive ways to unpack the closed grief boxes in order to help create connection and more meaningful support.                         3 Ways to Keep the Grief Box Open In my last post I wrote about the idea of pursuing an open relationship with grief vs. seeking the "closure" that society seems to prefer. I used the idea of a box that has been packed up and filled with our memories and tokens of the person who has died. Generally, as a society, we are expected to and [...]

10 12, 2013

Not an Earthquake After All, Just a Nightmare: A Cancer Journey

By | 2013-12-10T22:00:57+00:00 December 10th, 2013|General, Perspective|39 Comments

This is Part II of my story. To read Part I, click here.   Lou, my husband, not only had an inoperable tumor on his lung, he also had a brain tumor that had metastasized to the cerebellum.  It was all through his blood stream and would continue to settle where it wished. Photo Courtesy of ©iStockphoto.com/Roob “How long do I have?”  Lou asked.  “8 to 12 weeks” she said gently.  2 to 3 months??  This could not be real.  We walked to the car, and I said, “We take longer than that to plan our trips to [...]

29 10, 2013

How Halloween Came to Be

By | 2013-10-29T23:20:06+00:00 October 29th, 2013|General, Seasons of Life|43 Comments

 **For a great listing of local Halloween festivities, click here or here. Halloween-time is my favorite time of the year. Admittedly, I’m more in love with the harvest look that shakes the trees, the colder weather, and the infamous PSL, but I also relish the spooky-murky-creepiness of the only holiday that fits my love of X-Files, Harry Potter, and Tim Burton all into one day. Photo Courtesy of ©Stockphoto.com//gianlucabartoli But besides making the mortuary a “cool” place to work for a month, this holiday is also the only one that actively recognized the dead in its celebration. Do [...]

1 10, 2013

Put Me In The Corner: Brawling with Grief

By | 2013-10-01T11:40:32+00:00 October 1st, 2013|General, Inspiration|44 Comments

Imagine for a moment that you are a professional strike artist. A master of the body shot, and a prolific producer of the “right hook”.  You’re fast, strong, and calculating. Anybody who has ever stepped in the ring with you has found defeat, whether it be by knockout or unanimous decision. You’re unstoppable, unbeatable. The ultimate fighter. Photo Courtesy of iStock/thaddeus_griffin Now imagine you step in the ring, just like any time before, and as you turn your gaze upon the foe in the other corner, you are crushed by fear. Your chest tightens as you see that [...]

28 08, 2013

“How Do You Handle Working at a Mortuary?” | A Labor Day Special

By | 2013-08-28T05:00:14+00:00 August 28th, 2013|General, Perspective|21 Comments

I often wondered what Labor Day was as a kid, what did I care, I got time off from school was my thinking. As I got older I began to understand the reasoning behind the three-day weekend. Other then the unofficial end-of-summer, this day was a chance to stop and celebrate the everyday heroes of this country. This country was not built by the Rockefellers or the Carnegies, it was built on the backs of the everyday laborer. These are the people that sacrifice for their families and their country to work as a team, to build or do something [...]

3 07, 2013

Gettysburg: Haunting Me Still

By | 2013-07-03T05:00:16+00:00 July 3rd, 2013|General, Perspective|14 Comments

Gettysburg: Haunting Me Still While many of you will be celebrating the 4th of July tomorrow, tonight, at my house, there will be a small gathering of people to commemorate the 150th anniversary of the Battle of Gettysburg. Ok, so that’s pretty different, perhaps you think it’s odd; I have two things to say to that: Anniversaries are sacred, AND you don’t know my mother. me, haunting Gettysburg like a pro I grew up in a house with a mortician and a history teacher – a very interesting combo that I think explains the picture here to the [...]

12 06, 2013

Remembering Atticus: A Tribute to Our Fathers (& You’re Invited!)

By | 2013-06-12T05:00:58+00:00 June 12th, 2013|General, Seasons of Life|8 Comments

  A Father's Day Tribute   When I thought about writing this blog for Father's Day, I wracked my brain to come up with that quintessential father-figure. People like Walt Disney & Abraham Lincoln came to mind, but when I remembered Atticus Finch, the humble hero of Harper Lee's novel, To Kill a Mockingbird, I knew I'd found him. Scout & Atticus Growing up I always loved the movie, To Kill a Mockingbird, because of the charming characters, the fright I felt seeing Jem up on the Radley porch, and the purity of Scout's love for adventure & [...]

1 05, 2013

Journey Mercies . . . Welcome to Holland

By | 2013-05-01T05:00:38+00:00 May 1st, 2013|General, Inspiration|21 Comments

Journey Mercies . . . Welcome to Holland She arrived with the usual fanfare, a normal, easy delivery . . . mom and dad crying tears of joy, Aunt Kari on hand, and me taking photos as fast as my camera would let me. She came home from the hospital waiting for a name. Mom and Dad wanted to make sure that they chose the perfect one. On the fifth day we learned what we would call her . . . Sofia Miyoko , Wise Beautiful Child. Sofia had a smile that would light up the room. As the months [...]

24 04, 2013

Meet our Administrative Professionals

By | 2013-04-24T05:00:40+00:00 April 24th, 2013|Community, General|19 Comments

We want you to meet the women behind-the-scenes here at O'Connor Mortuary. These 5 ladies work full-time to be the first to answer the phone, prepare and file  all of our  paperwork, ensure quality & efficiency, and most of all, they help us look good! We are happy to introduce to you, the Admin Ladies of O'Connor Mortuary!   First up is . . . Diana - The Voice of O'Connor & our lovely Receptionist 1. How long have you worked for O'Connor Mortuary?  I have been with O’Connor since 2005. 2. What made you consider working at a mortuary?  [...]

3 04, 2013

Why Too Many Funerals Aren’t Worth Going To (& How To Fix That!)

By | 2013-04-03T05:00:30+00:00 April 3rd, 2013|General, Planning Ahead|3 Comments

  Photo Credit: www.typohgram.com If you’ve ever attended one of Dr. Bill Hoy’s seminars, you’ve inevitably heard about the importance of ceremony, how he attends every funeral he can, and why he thinks funerals are so important. Most of us are probably not as enthusiastic as Dr. Hoy when it comes to planning, much less attending a funeral. Well, why do you think that is? I’ll tell you what I think. I think it’s because the funeral profession has been doing funerals badly for a very long time. Think about it, go back to the last funeral you [...]