About Molly Keating
Hello and welcome to From the Heart. My name is Molly and I have the great privilege of writing this monthly blog for O’Connor Mortuary. This wonderful work has brought together two of my deep passions, writing and grief education. In 2016 I earned my Certification in the field of Thanatology, the study of Death, Dying and Bereavement and I hold a Masters degree in English Literature from Cal State Long Beach that I earned in 2011. I had the rare experience of growing up in a funeral home and having a father as a mortician, making my proximity to these topics, experiences, and ceremonies first-hand and life-long. It is an honor to share with you my thoughts, but most importantly, current academic thinking on taboo topics such as funerals, grief experiences, and the importance of having lasting, healing traditions.
Thank you for reading, my hope is that you find this an open place full of meaning and hope as you walk the road of grief.
July | Bereaved Parents Awareness Month
The nightmare becomes reality. Child-loss is something we avoid reading about, thinking about, or wanting to look at at almost all costs. The pain is so much. The loss is "disorganized" as Dr. Bill Hoy puts it, meaning it occurs out of our natural order. We all agree on [...]
How Do We Transition Out of Grief?
Last month I wrote about how "resurrection doesn't mean reversal" (quoting the fabulous Nadia Bolz-Weber). It occurs to me that the navigation of re-entry that we are all facing has a great deal in common with the re-entry bereaved people face. We are entering a familiar world with familiar [...]
Grief and the Myth of “Back to Normal”
Myth of "Back to Normal" after COVID We keep talking about "back to normal" and it sounds so wonderful. I so badly want to see and feel the life I had before this pandemic darkness. But when I step outside and visit my old haunts normal isn't anywhere [...]
Pandemic Grief
I attended the annual ADEC virtual & international conference on death and dying last week and walked away with so many incredible new ways to think about the dying & grief experience. One of the interesting terms introduced to us was “Pandemic Grief” by Dr. Robert Neimeyer. He spoke [...]
A Year Changes You
As hope begins to flicker in with vaccinations and re-openings I feel the great temptation to forget all that we've been through this last year and move into the excitement of our "old" life. But - we've all been changed dramatically by the pandemic. I know that there are [...]
Grieving Your Sweetheart
Valentine's Day without your Valentine is not going to be an easy day. There's a darkness just to saying or typing out the idea. If this Sunday will be your first or fifteenth Valentine's Day without your sweetheart, I am truly so sorry. Since you are here, I'm [...]
The Importance of Endings
We need things to end. Most of the time, we dread or avoid endings. They are sad, difficult, unwanted and force us to face a changed reality. But I believe that we need endings, desperately. I have never craved an ending for a year as strongly as I have [...]
What Do You Give a Grieving Person?
Grieving people can be difficult to buy for. The main reason for that, is that their life has taken on a complete and total inventory check of what's meaningful and actually important. I remember hearing a bereaved person say that their "bullsh!t meter" was sharper than ever [...]
How Can I Be Thankful for Pain?
Thanksgiving hits some sharp notes for so many of us this year. What are we supposed to be thankful for in a year of tumult, solitude, restriction and change? If you are reading this - it is most likely because someone you dearly love has died. HOW does one [...]
Sad Holidays 101: Creating Boundaries for Yourself and Your Grief
The holidays are always stressful. Always. But, that stress generally pays off with special gatherings, joyful present giving and tasty food. But when you are grieving all of this can just seem grey and tasteless. There isn't a payoff for the anxiety and in fact, there might be a [...]