About Molly Keating
Hello and welcome to From the Heart. My name is Molly and I have the great privilege of writing this monthly blog for O’Connor Mortuary. This wonderful work has brought together two of my deep passions, writing and grief education. In 2016 I earned my Certification in the field of Thanatology, the study of Death, Dying and Bereavement and I hold a Masters degree in English Literature from Cal State Long Beach that I earned in 2011. I had the rare experience of growing up in a funeral home and having a father as a mortician, making my proximity to these topics, experiences, and ceremonies first-hand and life-long. It is an honor to share with you my thoughts, but most importantly, current academic thinking on taboo topics such as funerals, grief experiences, and the importance of having lasting, healing traditions.
Thank you for reading, my hope is that you find this an open place full of meaning and hope as you walk the road of grief.
Pandemic Grief
I attended the annual ADEC virtual & international conference on death and dying last week and walked away with so many incredible new ways to think about the dying & grief experience. One of the interesting terms introduced to us was “Pandemic Grief” by Dr. Robert Neimeyer. He spoke [...]
A Year Changes You
As hope begins to flicker in with vaccinations and re-openings I feel the great temptation to forget all that we've been through this last year and move into the excitement of our "old" life. But - we've all been changed dramatically by the pandemic. I know that there are [...]
Grieving Your Sweetheart
Valentine's Day without your Valentine is not going to be an easy day. There's a darkness just to saying or typing out the idea. If this Sunday will be your first or fifteenth Valentine's Day without your sweetheart, I am truly so sorry. Since you are here, I'm [...]
The Importance of Endings
We need things to end. Most of the time, we dread or avoid endings. They are sad, difficult, unwanted and force us to face a changed reality. But I believe that we need endings, desperately. I have never craved an ending for a year as strongly as I have [...]
What Do You Give a Grieving Person?
Grieving people can be difficult to buy for. The main reason for that, is that their life has taken on a complete and total inventory check of what's meaningful and actually important. I remember hearing a bereaved person say that their "bullsh!t meter" was sharper than ever [...]
How Can I Be Thankful for Pain?
Thanksgiving hits some sharp notes for so many of us this year. What are we supposed to be thankful for in a year of tumult, solitude, restriction and change? If you are reading this - it is most likely because someone you dearly love has died. HOW does one [...]
Sad Holidays 101: Creating Boundaries for Yourself and Your Grief
The holidays are always stressful. Always. But, that stress generally pays off with special gatherings, joyful present giving and tasty food. But when you are grieving all of this can just seem grey and tasteless. There isn't a payoff for the anxiety and in fact, there might be a [...]
Why You Should Cry Today: Rui-katsu & the Tear Teacher
This week my husband sent me a short video produced by the BBC entitled, "The man teaching Japan to cry." I had goosebumps just a few seconds in and was deeply moved by the sweetness of the "tear teacher," Hidefumi Yoshida. He claims to have brought over 50,000 people [...]
Learning to Live with the Unimaginable
Learning to live with the unimaginable ... this is what grief is. And this is what our collective life is right now. The lyric, "learn to live with the unimaginable" comes from one of my favorite Hamilton songs. When I watched it last month for the first time, this [...]
The Gravity of Grief, and a Way Through
Stick with me on this one - I think it's important. When COVID lockdowns started, I found myself very isolated at home with two very little children. TV became a primary escape for us as parks, beaches and even grandparents were off limits. When Disney released Frozen 2 early, [...]